All of the 20 something's in our life are in trouble. Drug addictions, Dead beat husbands, Apathy, and mental illness. What can you do when the people you love, the 20 something's have an entire life ahead of them, but they have chosen to stop right here. How can you help them? How can you convey that they could have it so much easier than they have it now, if they just took 2-4 years to invest in their future? I am reminded of the errogance of the main character of "Into the Wild"
He thought he knew where his life was going, he was a free spirit, no obligations, no possessions, no nuthin'. Then his "know it all " way of living betrayed him when he made a huge mistake. He didnt realize that the frozen river would be raging river when he was ready to turn back and go home victorious. It cost him his life.

This is a very sad time for us, we have some major issues with the intelligent young people in our lives and we don't know what to do to help them.. is tough love the answer?
Abandonment? Totally enabling them? Where is the line? I default to- well, how does it affect me? How does it impact my life? they are not ASKING for help. They think they are fine, but they are young and stupid.

I remember being stubborn in my 20's but I would still be able to hear the advice. It might take me awhile to come up with the idea on my own, but eventually I would do what the adults in my life suggested. These young adults do not hear us, they do not want any advice, they just want to have people do everything for them. Like pay all their bills, pay for their food and their lodging and their gasoline, so they can support their drug habits. How do we shake them awake?